Letters to our sons – August edition

I’ve missed a few months but I am back at writing letter to my sons and sharing it in our wonderful blog circle.

Please follow the circle to my beautiful friend Lori”s page.


Hi my sweet little angel boys

This is more of a serious letter to you guys, but sometimes this is needed as well…

We have been home for a month after our visit to South Africa.  And I need to talk to you about some of the things that happened while we were there.

Your Oupa got attacked by some really bad men and he was hurt badly.

I had to try and prepare you guys for what you were about to see, so I told you that Oupa had an accident.

I told you that Oupa fell really hard and bumped his head, which he did…. but there was so much more too it than that.

You guys where so worried before you saw him.

You kept asking me: ” Oupa bumped his head?”  and “Oupa Ok?”

I could just see the worry and all the questions in your little eyes.

When we finally saw him you guys were a bit scared of him.

He looked so different, his whole face was swollen , he had blue and black swollen eyes, cuts everywhere and he seemed so broken inside…

You guys quickly got used to him and would check on him all the time to make sure that he was ok

I will never forget how you went to go lie next to him Tyde, you didn’t move (my boy who can never lie still for 2 seconds) you just lay there looking at him, not wanting to leave his side.

Unfortunately he had to go to hospital again and you guys didn’t see him for some time, but you kept asking for him and  you kept going to his room to see if he was there…

Anyway my boys one day I will tell you what happened.

But for now what I need for you guys to know is that sometimes bad things happen, just as good things happen.

But it is all about the choices you make to deal with it that makes all the difference in the world!

It would be so easy for me to be consumed by hate towards the people that did this to my dad.

But I am your mommy and I need to teach you and show you through my actions and words how to deal with situations like these.

If I was to hate and act out, I would just be creating more hate in a world that already has way to much of that.

So by the grace of God I chose to let it go…

You guys will alway have a choice when you are faced with bad situations and by choosing to forgive and by letting it go, you will find peace.

This was my mantra during that time


These images where taken about two weeks after the incident


My prayer is always that you will be safe and that no harm will come to you,

but I know that you will face adversity, it is just part of life, part of being human in a broken world

I love you so very much my sweet angels, please always no matter what, choose love!

Yours always



Almost two months ago my dad and two of his friends where brutally attacked in my parents holiday home by a group of four men.

They where severely beaten, stabbed and robbed but thankfully they were all alive.

A week after my dad’s attack he was rushed to hospital as he was barely conscious. He spent a week in ICU after they found a blood clot between his brain and his skull causing too much pressure in his brain.

Two weeks later he had reconstructive surgery to try and save his eye and his sight.

Another week later they had to redo the operation as it wasn’t successful the first time.

He is doing better, he just  had a a scan done that showed that the blood clot dissolved.

And his eye is much better although his sight is not 100 precent yet.

The police have caught the whole gang and they will be going to trial soon.

  1. Jill

    August 15th, 2014 at 12:09 pm

    A very brave letter to share and I’m so sorry for your family especially your Father

  2. ChantellS

    August 15th, 2014 at 3:34 pm

    Thank you Jill xx

  3. Leslie

    August 15th, 2014 at 5:37 pm

    Oh such a terrible incident. Your letter to your boys was very moving and pray for your family’s healing both physically and emotionally.

  4. Lori

    August 18th, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    Oh Chantell, I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what range of emotions your family has endured. I hope your father has a speedy recovery. Hang in there. Your response to the violence is inspiring.

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